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» lafemmenikita07 - Doesn’t matter rather a Stalker, Obsessed Fan, Insane/Sick

It doesn’t matter rather they are referred to as a Stalker, Obsessed Fan or Admirer, Insane or Sick Person? Given, the slightest opening “these people” eventually will hurt you and perhaps your love ones if they are not stopped.

While searching the Internet Sunday, I came across Actor Colin Farrell’s alleged stalker incident on the Jay Leno Show. The path took me to the alleged stalker's site. I was eating an In-and-Out burger at the time and I almost threw up. The alleged stalker's site reminded me of my own stalking incident that I feel I should disclose on the internet so people can know how serious this crime is and recognize the subtle signs of a stalker or at least know that stalkers do not just stalk celebrities and other public figures nor just ex-wives/boyfriends. Anybody can be stalked. I was stalked for approximately 1 and half years. Stalkers can be very patience. The stalker told me how long he had been doing it. I had no clue what so ever. Some stalkers also believe it is a game and assume that their prospective victim knows the game rules and is playing the game also. When confronted 99% of the time the stalker will mention incidents where they think the victim offered an open invitation to them. My stalker told me that while he was on the computer that I leaned over him and my breasts were close to him. He claimed he rubbed up against them and since I did not say anything he said I consented and that is why he believed I wanted more. First of all, we were in totally different job series and I was not the person assigned to assist employees with their computers. Also, I am not "top big or heavy" so it was no way I could lean over him and have any body part touch him. This incident did not happen. Then when the stalker could not get my attention after all that time and I did not take him seriously he tricked me away to an isolated location. He asked me to help him find something in an accounting system. I knew the system. He sat in the chair in front of the computer looking dumbfounded. My thoughts were how could he not know that the prior system had been replaced approximately 8 months ago. Anyway, I had a "heavy" task to teach him how to go into this new system and extract this data. I asked him to let me sat down at the computer and he moved.
I was so into this task explaining things moving through different parts of the system and so I did not know that he had moved and stood directly behind me within hands distance to the back of my neck. After, I drilled down to the lowest level of detail I asked him for the identifier he wanted. He replied that he did not know it. At that time, I thought why would he leave that information at his desk. Then, I felt uneasiness. He had asked no questions during the system demonstration. My mind was identifying his screw-ups; however, I still did not know what was ahead for me. The stalker put is hands on my shoulder and started messaging my shoulders. I froze. He asked me if I liked it. I said “no”. He did not stop. He forced his hands down my blouse into my bra and fondled my breasts so roughly that I had to take painkillers for a few days. He "hurt me". I tried to fight back; however, he was so strong. Also, my diabetic condition was "out of control" so I was more physically weaker than usual. My mother told me to confront him and make him understand not to ever touch me again. The next time I saw him I did. Then I got a glimpse into the mind of a stalker like a law enforcement profiler tries to identify the "psyche" of a serial criminal. The rationalizations he mentioned were beyond comprehension. I felt he “snapped”. He mentioned all types of things and circumstances that caused his behavior; however, not once, did he take responsibility or say he was sorry. In addition, my mother did not know what she was talking about. Do not confront your stalker. Seek help.
At first, my supporters and I thought I had been a victim of sexual harrassment. However, after describing the physical parts, fighting, and his retraining of me the police indicated a "felony" assualt had happened.

-- posted by lafemmenikita07