Abuse

» settler - i am in a verbally abusive marriage.

Thanks George. I was wondering if I would get any responses. And frankly stopped checking more than two weeks ago. I was getting sad and feeling even more isolated.

My wife had control of a lot of the stuff, but she kept pushing and finally at one point I wasn't giving in quick enough and she hit me. I am almost a foot taller and a lot bigger and could easily hurt her and she couldn't do a thing about it. Since that and the fact that she realized I was already giving all I had and was already thinking of leaving that she slowely started helping, but made it very aparent at every turn that she shouldn't have to and that she resented everything that I made her do.

Something came to a conclusion for her several months ago. I don't know what it was, but she finally decided to end it, but is trying to do it as equitably as possible. I'm not sure if she is being nice or just trying to end it nicely so that it doesn't drag out and interfere with her future life. We are still living under one roof with our three kids.

It seems to have struck her when we were talking weeks ago and she commented on why would I even want to be around her now and I said "frankly this for me is the same as it has been for the past six years". Frankly being uncomfurtable, worried about what she would do, feeling on edge, and hurt is how I have felt for years, so what is different now. This really did seem to strike her and she made reference to it a day or two later showing that she had been thinking about it.

She knows that I have several valid points and proof and witnesses for some to make it clear that there was many failts on her part. Basically we are at a wash at best for her, so she can not just run over me in a court or anywhere else any more.

I do have several friends who have tried to help and a couple who keep stick to me. I even have one who calls every week to check on me. Thanks Glenn!

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