Abuse

» DiBender68 - I was in a very abusive relationship with my ex husband for over

I was in a very abusive relationship with my ex husband for over 12 years. He could do no wrong and found fault in me no matter what I did.... the good thing is now i have found a great man that loves me and treats me right, but there is still a part of me that is still scarred.
This is my delemia, My 2 kids are in residental custody with this man..... Things are getting worse for my son..... I have constantly called child services because not only is he belittling him, robbing him of teenager development, now my son is getting bruises from a belt and I am scared. They were both in the ER on sunday because of my son not getting out of bed.
The police were there and i had another incident 2 weeks ago now, where my ex body slammed my son twice for not getting out of bed to go work with him. I need help here. The county social workers where i live made me sound like i am the bad guy here.

I have contacted my lawyer about a custody hearing, having neighbors and friends and family document everything they see and hear. I also have pictures of bruises on my son's body. Please tell me what else can I do?

-- posted by DiBender68

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» jfarris - I was in a very abusive relationship with my ex husband for over

You need to make a connection in the law enforcement office or DA office in your home town. At first this will sound manipulative but hear me out....find a female detective or officer to confide in. You need to find an ear so that someone will hear you. Second try the same thing in the DA's office. The key here is being heard. Ask around and see which officers are more sensitve. Finally find a pastor to talk to and get them on your side. There is strength in numbers and the more people you get to step up the quicker they will listen. Many of these men, abusers, use the relationship that guys ahve naturally to get cops on their side, you need to try and do the same thing.

-- posted by jfarris

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