Abuse

» Anya120 - Dear, "Not sure of abuse..."

Well, at 19, you still have many options.

I'd say that if you have doubts, act on them now rather than waiting.

It only gets worse if you wait (IMO).

My b/f is probably abusive, but he can't see it.

And, it's not like he hits me or anything, so I too am conflicted about breaking it off.

Mostly, he just cuts me down for saying things to him and tells me I interrupt all the time. He, of course, can interrupt ME whenever he pleases.

So, I come off as whiny and inconsiderate, whereas, he is the too-oft wronged victim.

I see it differently. I'm not perfect, but then sgain, I don't claim to be.

So, I also have NO IDEA if I'm wrong or he is, but often it seems, I am the one willing to do counseling or make changes, and he is the one reluctant to do so.

Just understand that I know it is hard to cope with this. And, hard to know if you are seeing things accurately.

All I want to say is that if you feel wronged, you may very well BE wronged.

Do your best to establish boundaries and go from there. And, if you continue to be unhappy, break it off ASAP, as it is easier to do so sooner rather than later on...

~Anya

-- posted by Anya120