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» brokenwings - P.S.

In response to P.S. posted by sweetgrass:

Good Morning Sweet!! Oh yes!!! You surely may cut, paste and copy what I wrote and post it on the other side! (You KNOW what will happen If I try... I don't think I know how to do that "switch screen thing", which is what happened with my little 'experiment'...Geeze, IWISH THEY WOULD DELETE IT!!!!! Where is SAM?!)

Sweet, I am REALLY SERIOUS about the camping thing--are you in So Cal? I have EVERYTHING now that is needed, and I know just about every really killer campground between No. Cal (where I live) adn So Cal, so I could meet ya half-way!! There are STILL lots of beautiful, warm, lazy summer days ahead, PLUS I would LOVE to share my special Chicken and Dumplings, made in my Gramma's old cast-iron Dutch Oven, with a friend who DESERVES them!!!!

Well, think about it, ok Sweet? I know a spot in Mammoth, that just happens to be by a big, PEACEFUL MEADOW, filled with deer! (And hunting is NOT ALLOWED).

But, HOW ARE YOU?? I will check the other site.

Yes, Sweet, I DO THINK that special men exist and are out there for BOTH of us...
But, we must HEAL first. We need to be OPEN to the possibility. Just like the N's zero-in on us BECAUSE of life-giving qualities, I think that the special men out there zero-in on our emotional "unavailability", as well, UNTIL we resolve the prior relationship, and all the conflicts that have been created and/or stirred up in us.

That is not to say, however, that we must try to be PERFECT. That is what the N man wants. A normal, healthy, special someone just wants us to BE OURSELVES. They will appreciate us MORE SO, because they too, just WANT TO BE THEMSELVES--no games, no head-trips--just a "partner in life", so that TOGETHER, the inevitable issues that crop up, or the whammies that life hurls at EVERYONE, can be approached and dealt with TOGETHER. I truly believe that a healthy relationship is the "you, the me, and US"= how does the situation effect YOU, how does the situation effect ME, how does it EFFECT US, and what can WE do so that it doesn't tear US apart, but makes the relationship even STRONGER.

So, Sweet--yes, I do believe that it does exist. But we must recognize that it takes TIME to heal ourselves. And, it WILL happen, when the time is RIGHT.

Keep the faith, Sweet...

Most Fondly,

Wings

-- posted by brokenwings