Abuse

» sweetgrass - P.S.

In response to P.S. posted by brokenwings:

Hey wings! I said be careful! ...not decline invitations! No more of that...next time you are invited, go for it.
I agree, nature is so healing and beautiful and it has been way too long for me to be in a quiet place like that.

I hope we both will find that special someone. Does it exist?

Take care and good night, my friend.

also, I would like to copy and paste what you wrote and share it on the other site if you give me permission...is it ok?

-- posted by sweetgrass

» brokenwings - P.S.

In response to P.S. posted by sweetgrass:

Good Morning Sweet!! Oh yes!!! You surely may cut, paste and copy what I wrote and post it on the other side! (You KNOW what will happen If I try... I don't think I know how to do that "switch screen thing", which is what happened with my little 'experiment'...Geeze, IWISH THEY WOULD DELETE IT!!!!! Where is SAM?!)

Sweet, I am REALLY SERIOUS about the camping thing--are you in So Cal? I have EVERYTHING now that is needed, and I know just about every really killer campground between No. Cal (where I live) adn So Cal, so I could meet ya half-way!! There are STILL lots of beautiful, warm, lazy summer days ahead, PLUS I would LOVE to share my special Chicken and Dumplings, made in my Gramma's old cast-iron Dutch Oven, with a friend who DESERVES them!!!!

Well, think about it, ok Sweet? I know a spot in Mammoth, that just happens to be by a big, PEACEFUL MEADOW, filled with deer! (And hunting is NOT ALLOWED).

But, HOW ARE YOU?? I will check the other site.

Yes, Sweet, I DO THINK that special men exist and are out there for BOTH of us...
But, we must HEAL first. We need to be OPEN to the possibility. Just like the N's zero-in on us BECAUSE of life-giving qualities, I think that the special men out there zero-in on our emotional "unavailability", as well, UNTIL we resolve the prior relationship, and all the conflicts that have been created and/or stirred up in us.

That is not to say, however, that we must try to be PERFECT. That is what the N man wants. A normal, healthy, special someone just wants us to BE OURSELVES. They will appreciate us MORE SO, because they too, just WANT TO BE THEMSELVES--no games, no head-trips--just a "partner in life", so that TOGETHER, the inevitable issues that crop up, or the whammies that life hurls at EVERYONE, can be approached and dealt with TOGETHER. I truly believe that a healthy relationship is the "you, the me, and US"= how does the situation effect YOU, how does the situation effect ME, how does it EFFECT US, and what can WE do so that it doesn't tear US apart, but makes the relationship even STRONGER.

So, Sweet--yes, I do believe that it does exist. But we must recognize that it takes TIME to heal ourselves. And, it WILL happen, when the time is RIGHT.

Keep the faith, Sweet...

Most Fondly,

Wings

-- posted by brokenwings

» sweetgrass - new site

In response to P.S. posted by brokenwings:

Wings, here is the website you were asking about.
http://groups.msn.com/SafeandSecure
Just type that into your browser and hit go.
But don't leave here! I still need you.
sweet

-- posted by sweetgrass

» brokenwings - new site

In response to new site posted by sweetgrass:

Hi Sweet! I am not goin' ANYWHERE (except Physical Therapy in a few minutes)..and besides, I need you too!!!

Ok-I did the browser thing, got onto msn.com, but the Home page is HUGE--I looked under Health and Wellness, found a NPD link, but I cannot find the Safe and Secure discussion site...I found one discussion group, but none of the names are remotely familiar!

Geeze, i HATE being technically challenged!!!!! So, I will work on that...

Wings

-- posted by brokenwings

» brokenwings - new site

In response to new site posted by brokenwings:

Hi Sweetie! Well, I FIGURED IT OUT, and now am registered on the new site--new name there is MirrorInTheNight.

Let me know if you are there, and underwhat name!

(Now, if i could just figure out how to DELETE the cut and paste post...)!

How are you!!

Fondly

Wings

-- posted by brokenwings

» liza3 - verbal abuse!!!

Heres my issue...I have a boyfriend who I have known aince I was young and we started dating 8 months ago, and things started to move way to fass. In the beggining like always I was happy having fun and enjoying my time with him. When a couple of months when his family and friends saw how serious he wanted to get with me they began to start sommenting bad things about me, turning him against me and saying that I wasnt good enough for him. His friends tried to get all together and do childish things to make him mad at me making up stories and so on. Thats when I felt disrespected and betrayed yet they were still giving me a nice face. Me and him began to argue more often and then it was everyday about it because I was telling him everything I knew and he said that they were just looking out for him. He blamed me for everything and now everything is all my fault. I also had issues with him because he was always lying to me...and when I tol dhim something baout it he brushed it off. he still does. Now everythime he calls and im mad he leaves messages on my machine telling me all these horrible things. Then he says the only reason he says it is because I like to get him mad, he says i like to get him mad...and trust me thats the last thing I want to do. Also, if I dont want to do something he talks me into it by making me feel bad and accusing me of things then i end up giving up and turn in. I have no idea what to do I wanna leave him because I feel like im going crazy but then I start to miss him and give up again. SOME ADVICE PLEASE

-- posted by liza3

» jfarris - verbal abuse!!!

In response to verbal abuse!!! posted by liza3:

You need to think about letting him go. First no one has the right to blame you for their emotions. Each of us controls our own emotions and he is telling you that you "cause" him to be mad. Second if he is that easily influenced by what others say it is a bad sign. The person you spend your life with should be loyal to you and your relationship first. It sounds like this guy comes with too much baggage and if one day you marry him you marry all that too. Think about this one before you are in too deep.

-- posted by jfarris

» sweetgrass - verbal abuse!!!

In response to verbal abuse!!! posted by liza3:

Dear Liza,
It does not sound like things are going very well and once a relationship starts to deteriorate in that way, it is usually more of the same and worse. sometimes we hope it will change. if there is any possible way you can get out of this relationship now and still find happiness, i would strongly recommend you do so. you are still young and you have a future, can meet different kinds of people and learn and grow as a woman. The thing that is so hard is if we get too attached to a man that is not good for us. Then it is so hard to get out, it is so hard to get that person out of our mind and emotions and it becomes like a sickness. Being involved with someone that is wrong for you can affect your life in such a negative way. That is the pain I feel. I have been 3 years with a man that is not good for me and making myself get out seems to be harder than I know what to do with. It has hurt me so much. I am not really sure if I will ever recover even if I can part ways with him. That is why I hope you will keep a high standard for yourself as far as the way you are treated. Sometimes, we get what we are willing to settle for. Please make a wise choice. I wish I were young like you and could make better choices for myself. It really is a big deal who you get involved with.

-- posted by sweetgrass

» kiki21 - For KIKI

In response to For KIKI posted by brokenwings:

Hi Everybody,

Thank you for you warm words and support.... You will all be proud to know, I am out of their....... He came home drunk about 2 weeks ago and started to yell and scream at me.... It came to a point where he stared pushing me into the wall.... HIS MOTHER come down and stuck her nose in it so I jumped in my car at 2am and left. I took no clothes just my wallet and Money. I drove staight to his brothers house left my car there jumped into a cab and went to the airport. I jumped on a plane at 6:30am and flew staight home to my mum and dad. I am safe and happy now, and yes he has come to see me and it was civil. I have made my decision to never go back, yet I will not exclude him from his childs life, he will just never be part of my life. I have stared my life all over again... He refuses to give my stuff back, but hey I can always buy all that stuff again... I am currently discovering myself again... But it's just great to be able to feel the warmth and love of family again, which brings a smile on my face.
I had my first ultrasound today and just felt so liberated and free. I can't wait to raise my baby.......

Thank you

I will keep you all posted on my progress.

-- posted by kiki21

» brokenwings - For KIKI

In response to For KIKI posted by kiki21:

Oh Kiki!! GOOD FOR YOU and you PRECIOUS BABY!! Your Mum and Dad must be so VERY proud of YOU!! WE ALL ARE!!!!

Keep us posted about you and your baby's development and BIRTH!!!

CONGRATULATIONS!!! You are going to make a TERRIFIC Mum!!

Most Fondly,

Wings

-- posted by brokenwings