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» sienna1942 - My son is a narcissist

In response to My son is a narcissist posted by sienna1942:

To Carson5493,
It is hard to tell when they are teens (and I assune she is a teen) if this is narcissistic behavior but only time will tell. When she gets older, she may grow-up and be responsible but if it continues into adulthood i.e. (early 20's )then I'd say you'd, then, have an unfortunate situation, indeed.
There is no cure and no counselling that really helps a narcissist (if that is what she really is) and so all you, then, can do is what I had to do with both of my sons and that is to RUN. The narcissist having strongly influenced the younger son! Because, a narcissist can be extremely vindictive toward anyone they think in their twisted reasoning has done them wrong. They are capable of anything in retribution. That would include, retribution against reasonable parental discipline and/or reasonable parental decisions. A normal child will respond to the aforesaid measures but not a narcissist. It is best not to try to reason with them but to always, always agree with them; do what they ask. In doing this, you may not make the same mistakes I did and that was to raise him in a normal fashion in accordance with parenting classes that are given. Please remember, that they will get angry about not getting their way and, 'boom', they get back in whatever means they choose and you may not even realize it until it is too late! There is no growing up and becoming a responsible citizen - they are what they are and that is all there is to it! Don't try taking them to Sunday School and church either - they pay lip service there, too. There is no way in the world to change them!
I have never told this to any one, so read this section carefully and thoughtfully: my son has gone so far as to tell the social servies that I have sexually abused him! I, of course, never knew this and was never charged or brought before the courts for this accusation but the upshot is that the social services closed ranks against me which shows that they are not too swift when it comes to the ploys of a narcissist.
The narcissist has no idea of right and wrong and so whatever attention he or she can get (whether good or bad attention) is o.k. with them. These individuals simply and completely are absorbed by their own wants and needs and desires and no one is allowed to interfere with that.
It is true my son was sexually abused, but, it was by someone very early in his young life for which he in later years (t about age 10) reported to the social services (because it happened in a home run by them). This may have had some bearing on why he is what he is now. I really don't know, but they say the narcissist has been abused mentally or physically or sexually prior to age 2. This fits, then, with his own exepriences at that age. So, these people who suffer with this malady have no empathy whatsoever in any way and often, because they are a narcissist, sexually abuse their own children (quite apart from having been sexually abused themselves). This is due to being a narcissist because they do not see their own offspring as a separate individual unto themselves but rather a source of narcissistic gratification (otherwise known as narcissistic supply).
I, sincerely, hope and trust that the above information will be of help to you in your present situation.
I also recommend that you go on Google and type in the word Narcissist and study the mentality of such individuals and it will be a further eye-opener and will be a source of great help to you in making further decisions regarding your daughter.
Sincerely, Sienna1942

-- posted by sienna1942