Abuse

» mamacita25 - My son is a narcissist

Sienna,
I don't have help for you other than support for what you're going through. My ex is a narcissist and my 8 yr old son is and has been since birth. I didn't realize what was wrong till a year ago after trying everything with this boy. He terrorizes my daughter and I, he's been to 3 yrs of therapy, acts perfect at school but with us is EVIL. After reading about narcissists after reading about a zillion different books on how to help him and us, I realize he is stuck. I'm so sad but just ordered something online that will maybe help. I'll get back on and let you know if it does or was a rip-off. I could not access all that happened to you but your emotions in your message are exactly how I feel. I have always been good with kids, oldest of 5 and have worked with kids in programs yet I have no clue what else do do for this twisted boy. Like you, I love him with all my heart but can't allow him to torture us like this. He has broken my finger, destroyed many things in our home, throws dangerous objects, etc. We are afraid of him, his Dad demonizes counselors and psychologists so my son won't go anymore, you're right: I can't raise him. All I can do is step around him.Right now since he is little I can remove priveleges, praise and reward self control or consideration for others, but that only lasts for the short term. The worst part is realizing he is uch a tortured person inside as well. He poops he pants every day when he gets home, despite all the attention and support and love we can possibly give. He has medicine for that but it keeps getting better, then worse etc. My poor 12 yr old daughter who is levelheaded and easy going has to deal with it from her Dad AND him when she is at Dad's. Because of course the courts could not recognize the Dad's problems, although they are now from his incessant and ongoing frivolous suits.I'm sorry I'm not writing anything to help but I am writing to offer support and understanding for having to give up and step away from the abuse.Even if he truly "can't help it". You feel like you live with a wolf. That's how I feel. If he's this scary at 8 what will it be like when he's 16?? And the people that don't really know him praise him to me all the time, "he's so cute, so sweet, so polite" I just smile sadly and say Oh, thank you....

-- posted by mamacita25