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» settler - men and abuse

Well this discribes me. Granted I have a degree in elementary education and wanted to be the stay at home person and was all for the idea of home schooling our children, but the rest was upseen and abuse. We went threw all of the steps over time. She just wasn't involved, pulled back emotionally, ignored, minipulated me with kids, everything an argument, complained, belittled, insulted, controlled, hit, everything from before got worse, lied to friends about me to get support, distanced me from my support groups, minipulated me using friends, then when I really stood up claimed abuse to everyone, and then just said it is over.

She only hit me two or three times and always emedietly pulled back in fear and stupidity. I'm a foot taller, outway her and know enough to kill her and she couldn't even slow me down, but I never hit back. It never physically hurt when she hit me and like I said it was no match. She never would have done it if she had had any thought left to her. She just wasn't getting what she wanted, frustrated, and nothing else was budging me so she lashed out. Does that condone it. No! But she seems to think that it explains it and so it's not really her failt. Or at least that is what she said when she remembered it, but now she doesn't even remember it. It is the same arguement she has used for most everything. I got out of control and it jsut happened. Drop it!

Money is always short if anyone tries to do anything, but her. She anounces she needs time to do what ever and if anyone disturbes her everyone is yelled at and abused, especially me, but also the kids. Any discision made together is binding until she changes her mind and then it can happen emediatly without letting me now that the rules have changed. They also are set back as soon, for everyone, as she gets what she wants.

Sorry that is my story!

Settler

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I was just thinking about why it happens now and maybe not before so much.

The only advantage that a man has in not being abused is the fact that he is bigger and stronger, but there is emotional abuse, verbal abuse, and so on and the only advange a man has against these is to control and HIT.

HITTING! But that is against the law and abuse as well. So there is little wonder that there is male abuse. We have been equaled out by the law, but men are still singled out. In this day and age hitting a woman who is out of control is unconcevable. It is twenty years in prizon even if she was abuseing you in every other way. So what do men have for protection. Nothing more than a woman has.

A man can abuse in all of these other ways just as a woman can, but a man can go one step farther and then he is done for. If a woman goes that fare it doesn't matter, it doesn't leave a mark and they generally just don't do it. But we can not go there anymore so we don't have any advantage in abuse any more.

Hay! Hitting anyone is wrong so jail for that is an option for both sexes. But anything less than that, and woman defenitly has the advantage in.

I don't mean this to attack woman or belittle anyones abuse, but men can also be abused and are.

Settler

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» jfarris - men and abuse

In response to men and abuse posted by settler:

You are very right Settler and abuse is abuse not matte what the sex. There are a lot of agencies that are now trying to even the playing field for men so that they can fight abuse. Your posting here is also helping because it is getting the word out.

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