Abuse

» sweetnsourblt - Am I abused or just weak?

My man for years now only wants to socialize with his family and people he choses for us to hang out with. When I make a friend and get an invitation for some gettogether as a family with the kids, he always has some reason not to like someone and not want to go. He says I could show up alone. I have many more issues with this man,such as him quitting his job while I am not working. I had a baby and I was very sick. We always owe on bills because he spends money on unnecessary things. This is not just about money. I feel that if you love your family you should be more careful with money. He is very careless. He spends his and then needs mine to get through the week. He can never know that I save because right away he needs it.
I want us to have a house for our children but after 11 years of being with him it just doesn't seem possible.

-- posted by sweetnsourblt

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» sweetnsourblt - is he a narcissist?

a friend of his invited us to a baby birthday party. I did not want to go because my 10 year old with autism has never had a bithday party at home, only in school. I would feel depressed going to some kids party, buying presents and sitting there smiling like everything is ok. When in reality my newborn needs clothes, we barely have money for food and I don't know if I want to be in this relationship anymore.I let him know!!!
Well, he was so embarrased that I did not want to go and that we didn't. He was hurt. I was hurt when my mother was expecting a visit from us and cooked us dinner and he dropped the kids and i off and never came inside to say hello. We drove 4 hours to get there but he decided to visit other people. Somehow he cant see what he did wrong.

-- posted by sweetnsourblt

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» netta71 - How to get out

I have been in a physically abusive relationship before and now I am in a verbally abusive one. I have 1 child by him and 2 others from previous relationships. I receive the abuse but my kids hear it. I am disabled but do not receive disability yet. How do I leave and keep my kids from doing without? It sounds like an easy answer but it's hard when you are in it. There is no way I can support them so I have stayed for 6 years trying to keep peace. Of course he always apologizes after but it only lasts for a couple of days. I need out but am scared that I will put my kids in an even worse situation by having them do without.

-- posted by netta71

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» Julie Burtinshaw - How to get out

In response to How to get out posted by netta71:
Feeling trapped in a relationship is such a hard thing. When I read your story, I wondered: Do you have family or friends who might be able to support you for a time if you left? If not, consider contacting a local group for abused/battered wives. They will offer you support in terms of counselling or housing if you need it.

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» jfarris - is he a narcissist?

In response to is he a narcissist? posted by sweetnsourblt:

You really need to take a long look at why you are there. I have a friend who goes through the same type of behavior with his wife and it is abuse. He is controlling you even though it seems like he is just being rude. When you have children you have to decide to live your life to raise them. You have some decisions to make, him or your kids.

-- posted by jfarris

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» jfarris - How to get out

In response to How to get out posted by netta71:

You need to contact the disabled person's resource group in your town. This is usually facilitated through the local Human Services office or the Adult Abuse program. The fact that you are disabled opens a lot more doors for help.

-- posted by jfarris

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» sweetnsourblt - is he a narcissist?

In response to is he a narcissist? posted by jfarris:

Thanks for your reply. I have been asking myself, WHY AM I STILL HERE? for a while and feeling guilty about it. You have assured me that I am on the right track. I recently opened my eyes to his lies and manipulation to control me. I don't believe anything he says. It's like I can see right through him. There are so many other incidents with HIM...I could write a book, but I wouldn't know where to start!

-- posted by sweetnsourblt

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» jfarris - is he a narcissist?

In response to is he a narcissist? posted by sweetnsourblt:

Start from the beginning....writing a book might be a great idea and may help you walk yourself through your plan to heal.

-- posted by jfarris

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» petalsoflight - How to get out

In response to How to get out posted by netta71:

Getting a protective order will help to get you in a safer place. We can't change people. YOu need to know you are worth it. You are so brave to even write about it here. The higher power is speaking through your fear. you recognize what you need to do. you have all the support you need from the universe. receive it. you will have feelings- feel them. crying does not mean you are weak- take your time to feel that anger and sadness so you don't take it out on others. You deserve to feel safe and comfortable always

-- posted by petalsoflight

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