Abuse

» erdew - claims of abuse by women in relationships

I am so fasinated in the idea that seems to be prevelant in our society that women and their representatives do not lie about abuse in relationship dissolution, whether divorce or just ordinary breakups. As a father of two girls, I watched as my ex and her advocates marched our chidren thru such abuse of therapy under the pretense of protection. As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, her lawyers and advocates(women all) used purposely calculated misdiagnosis of our childrens issues to introduce my past victemization as a divorce tatic, literally weeks after mediation failed to net what my ex and her divorce team "suggested" I should offer as a final settlement. When I refused, I was immediately investigated for child sexual abuse, despite that fact that over the initial 18 months of separation nothing had been suggested and I had enjoyed normal visitation with my daughters. The idea that this is not representative of a behavioral trend amongst some women in general is disturbing when these same populations continue to promote the idea that women should be protected from the worst behaviors of men while refusing to acknowledge the worst behaviors of women. It is as if these proponents of the feminest agenda have found a power base by achieving the ability to influence our courts, and then want us to believe that there is no abuse in this base of power. This parellels the same abuse of power that men had used during the days of sufferage, when men so dominated the seats of power that the voices of women were not only not heard, but that the loudest of these voices were subjected to slander and gossip, a tatic similar to that used by women of today. Those women who claim victimization, but who need to hide behind the often bizzare claims of confirmation offered by many feminest therapists. In my case despite independent witness statements of sexualization as a result of exposure to my ex engaging in sex in view of my daughters, the feminests and the courts used rape shield to protect my ex from investigation and then diagnosed satanic ritual abuse as the reasons for my childrens age inappropriate understanding of adult sexual behaviors. I submit that only a system that has become so political in it's dealings with the "best interests of children" could behave so badly and suggest that it's only trying to do the right thing. And I submit that like yesteryear the buracrats that reach these results are thinking only of their best interest and their job security rather that recognizing the negetive impact of taking children into these often voyeuristic therapies. As long as we continue to believe that women are perpetual victems and not potential perpetrators we continue to expose this generation of children to the excesses of these abuses. We have in fact, under the guise of protection, merely created a new form of abuse, and though when we look at the worst of the female communities behaviors we see an attempt to gain power. Any woman who has lied to get pregnant, any woman who has lied about abuse is attempting to get power and that parallels the same reasons that men abuse. We need to someday grow up as a people and recognize that our legislators enact laws not to protect us but to protect themselves and that in doing that they can be taken advantage of. And that the system needs to evolve to recognize that men and women abuse differently. Until then we have learned nothing about protecting people from abuse, we merely walk along a line that is best for the generation in power today. And that only protects the status quo, including the women who worked so hard for power that they have become beholden to those that helped them acquire power, and who now, like the men of yesteryear stand idly by while women abuse, and merely spread gossip and rumor to put down the forward thinkers who have the nerve to point out the emperor is yet again naked

-- posted by erdew