Abuse

» ajmsoul - my sons father (not husband) very abusive,yet getting away

In response to my sons father (not husband) very abusive,yet getting away posted by haajin123:

I really hope that you are taking care of yourself and not being abusive to yourself.

Systems sure aren't perfect but they are all we've got. Sometimes, even when things go wrong, all we can do is the best we can do. Your son needs you to be there for him when he is to be with you.
He needs to know that his mother is okay.

I know it must be so difficult to deal with the unfairness of the system's inability to effectively deal with what you are experiencing.

Remember, we can only control what we choose to do and we can only control ourselves.

I hope that you can put your energy into taking care of you and being there for your son so that in spite of what the system hasn't, can't, or won't stop, your son experience the meeting of his needs and as much safety and security as you can give to him.

It may sound simplistic but focusing on your son's father's actions or "games" is not going to help you son. If you put your focus on what you can do for your son, you and he will be the better for that.

I wish you all the best with this trying situation.

A.J.

-- posted by ajmsoul