Abuse

» stress30 - for Fantasia (& Mandy)

Hi, I luckily found this site a few weeks ago when things were bad, and then they were good and now they are bad and each time gets worse and I get further and further to actually contemplating actually leaving. Fantasia-it is freaking scary everything you have said, I swear to God you and I must be with the same man. Especially the part about how good he is with logic and manipulation, it is as though you believe you actually did soemthing when you didn't. I have been married for 1 year and a half and have one 1yr old son with him and another on the way (7 mos pregnant now). I have been going through an emotional verbal, emotional, mental abuse roller coaster with some physical in between. I wouldn't know where to begin other than I'm losing my mind with him and he is complelty unreasonable and don't know what to do. He is harrasing me at work with texxt messages, telling me tongiht that he now deleted all pictures of our son off of our computer, (there aresome of them i have not made cds of yet including his 1 yr birthday and recent surgery), threw away all my underwear ! Sounds funny but it's true, of course he left the ones i had before him, which there aren't any. Anyway, the house is in my name, all my stuff, he has been very destructive in teh past and still is now, he thew away every card he ever got me during fights, threw away alot of keepsakes, burnt furniture the beginning of this year. Alcholic but he denies this of course and of course thinks all this is my fault because i have had so many boyfriends in the past (7 total) as opposed to his 50? If I leave, he will destroy everything in the house, i believe, he won't leave, what do I do???????? I cannot take this, he already had a wife and a kid which he does not see, he told me if I leave, he will never see the kids again, I also feel bad because if I did that, I would somehow be the cause of him not seeing 3 of his kids. He blames me for not seeing his first one due to money we didn't have to pay ehr child support. I need serious hellp, I can't talk to my family, they have already been threw 2 blowups requiring me to stay with them twice, if it happened again, that would be it and i dont' know, I want to do this with the least amount of drama possible. Can i legally change the locks? Even if i did he would probably kick the back door in. which he has done. You guys please help. I need continuous support, I feel likeyou guys know exactly what I am dealing with and I would like to tell you guys things as they are happening so I do not feel alone and like it is my fault. Please thanks.

-- posted by stress30