Abuse

» mandy38 - whats wrong with me...why am i stuck????

To Somuchmore: Listen, first of all there's nothing wrong with you. As a matter of fact....It's not you at all. I went through this myself with my husband. He was a pain killer drug freak who lied to me about using. He has major anger issues such as beating doors in when we argue and I just need to get away from him. He has been catered to all his life by his mommy which I don't think helped out in the least. And guess what? I left his ass almost 4 months ago and I still love him too. There's nothing wrong with loving them, there is something wrong with not knowing when to let them go and get the help they so desperately need. I have been through drug re-hab with him, I have lost thousands of dollars due to his drug use, I have put up with name calling and being harrassed on the phone. I walked on eggshells around him. Guess who's kissing my ass now? Yeah, when a good thing is gone, they magically wake the hell up.
I am no angel and I never claimed to be but I do know that I don't have to put up with this an neither do my kids.
I still see him now and then and we are still legally married and still if things don't go his way, to this day, he flips out. I get up, get my stuff and leave. Know why? because I don't have to put up with his abuse anymore. He hates not having the control but, TOO BAD.
Let it go for now. If you truly mean anything to him...he will do some changing, you'll see.

Mandy38

-- posted by mandy38