Abuse

» ajmsoul - my husband cusses at me

In response to my husband cusses at me posted by secure49:

Hi there secure49,

It is important, when someone is verbally abusive, to state what your boundaries are. It is best to talk about this during a calm time.

You, could, for example, during a calm time ask to have a sit down conversation with your husband. In this conversation you can let him know how you feel when he cusses at you. Then let him know that because his words are hurtful you won't just stick around and be treated that way. You may want to say that you will take space, or go for a walk, or whatever would work for you best if he gets verbally abusive but let him know that you aren't going to just listen to that anymore and that you'd be glad to listen to how your husband feels about something or his concerns but that swearing or yelling isn't a way to talk to you.

If you don't feel you can do this or you feel it's not safe to do this then you may be best served to seek professional help.

Take care,
A.J.

-- posted by ajmsoul