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In response to I thought he was into me and cared... posted by gemnjun:
Someone can hold you tight and kiss you and hug you..when THEY want to. Have you noticed it is only when he wants to? But when you want to, he is dismissive and impatient, even so much as intolerant? Does he sigh really loud, turn away from you or start an argument? How about the words, "not now!" or even, "you're so clingy". he sounds to me to be the kind of guy that wants you to clean for him and cook for him and basically be at his beck and call but not return it. he is selfish, girl, plain and simple. And guys like that don't change. I ran into that a while back. I was married to a guy who for all intensive purposes seemed to be my soulmate. It was perfect and then something happened. I would clean his house all day and do laundry, prepare a great dinner, and bring it to him at work. Thank you's did not happen letalone he noticing that his apartment was imaculate when he got home from work. Nothing. he was selfish and mean too! You name it, he said it. and the final straw being when he told me, "it is a good thing we don't have children because they would have shaken baby syndrom" I had to call it quits after that. he wasn't going to change and i had already lost a lot of my self esteem trying to change for him. I had gotten to the point where nothing I did was good enough and everything i said only served to piss him off. Girl, he is not going to change. Face it, he wants you when he wants you.....he is selfish, and what YOU want doesn't matter. the longer you stay with him, the more he thinks he has a grip around you. the longer you stay the more he will abuse and the cycle will never end.

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