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» magictouch - I thought he was into me and cared...

In response to I thought he was into me and cared... posted by gemnjun:

Hi,

Focus on how you feel and do not disregard your feelings.Your feelings ar not silly.

When I read your post, I could relate to a few things you mentioned.
My x called me an 'idiot' too, just because I did not sit where he wanted me to sit. I felt so horrible when he called me that and decided to be myself and show him I was hurt.I teared.He said I was being over sensitive.
When I looked back at my past relationship, 4 years with another guy who was not abusive at all, there were times when he would joke around and say ' silly girl', but it never hurt at all.
That's when I knew I was not being over sensitive.My x might have just said 'you idiot' but those words came with poison from his own scars and fears.
My x would also have the habit of asking me 'where is my kiss?'...sometimes if I got into the car and I had a bad day, I would rattle off about work, and if I did not kiss him, he would be sulky or if I kissed him abit later, he'd say the moment has passed! I am ALWAYS THE one who leans forward to give him the quick peck when I get into the car!

He is also very started becoming very detached emotionally when we watched tv.

When he slept, he would hold me soooo tight, I would not be able to sleep!He'd be snoring his head off!

Take heed of what A.J said, she explained why he does what he does very clearly.

Everyday is still a battle for me to forget about him, but I know made the right decision because I deserve a man who will treat me with respect and love.

The most important feelings are your feelings.Honour your feelings and pay attention to them.Respect you feelings and listen to them.:-)

Have a magical journey,
magictouch

-- posted by magictouch