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» Lotta1003 - Recognizing I was in verbally abusive relationship

In response to Recognizing I was in verbally abusive relationship posted by iamback:

Hi!
I am so glad to hear from you. Your experiences seems very similar to mine.I believe my husband suffers seriously from self-esteem and confidence issues. I am so sad about our situation. He has a MBA in Business and a law degree from an Ivy League university. My husband lived with me in my country for eight years. I always thougt, that he did not get a good job because there were cultural and language problems. He did teach for a while, but then that job ended. He did some management consulting, but thats it. More or less, I worked and brought in the money for a lot of years. He contributed from his saving. Now we are here in the US. We have been here for a year. I believed, that once we came back here, he would be "up and going" instead he has been at home all the time. He says he is posting his CV on the internet on job sites, but not one interview, not one response. He blaims it on me - my lack of support and interest - and my daughter. We are "high maintenace" and my daughter is not behaving, so it leavs him depressed and exhausted, he says.
He is now almost through his savings. I sold my house that I owned before we moved here. I am terrified, that he plan to continue to let me support him.
His brother is successful and his parents worked hard, at least his mother. I am devistated that he is not taking our re establing here in the US seriously. I am thinking of moving out from our rental home, to show him that I am serious about my concerns. He needs to show in action that he is taking his share of the responsibilities. You wrote, that your husband got a job after you left. That left me thinking about my own situation.
Thank you for sharing with me.
Best,
Lotta

-- posted by Lotta1003