Abuse

» ajmsoul - My husband is normally a very funny, outgoing person who is grea

Hi MK,

Can you identify anything that is the same around the times he gets into these dark moods and as you describe, "turns into a monster?" What you are describing sounds like it has to do with some stress he experiences and does not at all cope well with. There is an element of abuse in the control you describe that he tries to exert over the environment and your family.

It sounds like something that he does need help with because he should be able to control himself and not be displacing on you and others whatever he isn't coping well with inside.

You may want to see a counsellor yourself to come up with the most effective strategy to deal with this.

It does however, come down to what you deem acceptable or not. If you can't live with it and he can't or won't stop doing it and your children are being effected you may have to seriously think about whether or not it will be healthy for the three of you to remain in the environment with him - or at least during the times that he gets into these
moods.

A.J.

-- posted by ajmsoul