Abuse

» tiger348 - I have finally recognized that I have allowing emotional/verbal

I have finally recognized that I have allowing emotional/verbal abuse in my marriage for the last 20 years. Basically, I have known it, but only now really and truly understand what it means. My husband would disagree with me....but I am so worn out emotional, mentally, and spiritually that I don't know which end is up anymore. Any suggestions on what I should do at this point..I need some direction....

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» ajmsoul - I have finally recognized that I have allowing emotional/verbal

In response to I have finally recognized that I have allowing emotional/verbal posted by tiger348:

Hi Tiger,

Firstly, half the battle is the recognition and understanding that you are being abused. It can be very difficult to come to terms with because it may mean significant change in your life and that is not an easy thing to do regardless of the reasons we choose change.

You know yourself best. You know what you need. Now that you've come to this understanding about your experience in your marriage all this time you will need to decide what you have to do to ensure that you do not remain the victim of any form of abuse.

This means learning to identify and develop and then uphold new boundaries for yourself.

It may mean discussing this with your husband, if that is safe to do. If you can, see if there is any chance that he will seriously look at this and get some help to stop it.

If he won't talk to you about it, hear what you have to say and get some help to change then you will have to decide whether you want to stay or go.

I wish you all the best, keep reading, keep searching and know that you are worthy of being treated with respect and kindness.

A.J.

-- posted by ajmsoul

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