Abuse

» ajmm - what to do

In response to what to do posted by maryjg:

Hi Maryjg,

Yes, the controlling that you describe your husband as doing is abusive. A person does NOT have to name call or hit you to be abusive. You should be free to see whomever you want when you want and to offer a houseguest food or drink.

The fact that he is so jealous, mistrusting, and insecure, is a big red flag. If you aren't careful, when you decide to do what you want (which is your right) he may up the anti in more abusive ways.

It is not just life, it is abuse. Sadly, all-too-often it is from this base of control, control, control, that other forms of abuse emerge as well.

I hope that you will seek some support and/or counselling in your area as you decide what you can and cannot live with anymore. You deserve to be respected and treated like a partner and not a child.

Be careful, get support and stay safe.

A.J.

-- posted by ajmm