Abuse

» Marinda20 - He said its not Verbal Abuse then what is it?

Hi
I am new to this group. I wrote to A.J. Mahari recently but did not get any responce from her yet. Maby somebody could tell me if this is abuse. We were at home one weakend and my friend got angry for something that my daughter forgot to put in the kitchen. He yelled at her. I imediatly told him this is not nesecary to go on like this. Suddely as if something snapt and he ran down the stairs screaming in to my ears that i am a HORR and my place is at the street corner. My face was full of spit. He threw one of my cups to the floor with coffy in it. He told my daughter that she's got a horr as a mother. He called me a B**ch. He also told me to get my things and leave asap. I told my daugther that we must go outside and leave him to cool of. He also came out cept on yelling so that everybody could hear him. I felt so asamed. Now the cool part. He took his sigarette and flicked it agains my neck. I had two small blisters. My dauther became hesterical. He told me that it wasn't his attention that he only wanted to flick the sigarette agains my shoulder.
He also said that he could not stand the site of us and that we must leave. Aterwards he calmed himself and said that he was sorry and he didn't meen to. He drinks techretoll that the docter prescribe to him to undermine his agression. He said the doctor also told him that part of his brain did not develop completely and the part of the brain that must control his temper is missing, so he can not control it???????. On 5 January 2007 one Friday afternoon his rage started up again. He through books on the ground broke his table were his pc was on and blamed it on me. Again he said he was sorry. The next day things got out of hand again. Two shops that he went to wasted his time and his road rage help it on. So when he came home, he screamed at me called me a Dum Bitch and a Horr. He again told me to ge my stuff out asap if i don't take my stuff, he would get somebody to do it for me. He took his car keys and aimed it at me. Luckely he didn't. He slamed the front door with such a force, that you have to lock it so that it don't open by itself. Again he said he was sorry and blamed it on his condission. He bought himself a boxing bag and he said that when his rage starts up again he will use the bag but i must help him to put on his boxing gloves. Me and my daughter are afraid, scared when he comes home because we don't know what to exspect. No papers must be in the living room or els. Everything in the house is my property, the only thing that is his is the flat and his computer.
I feel emotional tired and cry all the time. I am very unhappy and want to be on my own. I also had to apply for a credit card so that there could be food in the house, and because of that I've put myself in more dept then ever before. The food is my responsiblity does'nt matter if he pays more then me. I've asked him for help but he said no. He needs money for himself and if there is something left he will see were he can help me. I've been looking out for a new appartment for me and my daughter. I can not deal with this any more. Whe need to be happy again without any danger of scaredness. Is this Abuse or a mental case?

-- posted by Marinda20