Abuse

» Talk_to_me - Hi,

If anyone has experienced similar problems to me - see 'have i been abused?' could you please let me know.

I have just read AJ's article on verbal abuse and it sent chill down my spine, I always thought to be verbally abusive you had to be called names and o i have always felt guilty for being upset with my father and sister - but now I am starting to see that when words are used in order to hurt you that this is abusive.
My fiance has always said that they have a choice to act this way, but i think its something i have done, havent done or that if i hadnt done xyz then they would be fine but maybe i was wrong.

Last year i was supposed to cook a birthday meal with my sister for my dad, i hade been ill and off work all week and have said i might not be able to do it.. I arrived at my dads to say happy birthday (was still ill) and was met with my sister yelling at me saying i was selfish, lazy had no respect, she had such venum in her and i crumbled and sat there crying and then i left. I admitted i should have rang to say i definately couldnt make it, but after being so ill all week surely a loving family would have asked how i was, mine just jumped on me. I have done so much for my family and am loving and caring it really hurt.;(

-- posted by Talk_to_me