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» jesika15 - Borderline Personality and Narcisistic Personality Disorders

I felt it important to write regarding the following: someone very close to me has experienced this recently and being a person who believes in truth and justice, I couldnt believe what he has gone through, I felt finding this book and mentioning it here may help someone with a similar situation in the future. Nobody would ever want to go through what he went through and is now working to repair the damage that his BPN or NPD spouse caused him. I was searching on line regarding personality disorders and found a book called "Splitting" which covers all aspects of how to handle divorcing your spouse who has Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorders or traits. It covers how successful they can be at manipulating and confusing legal professionals.Rather than being rational and protective, the Family Court process can be very unpredictable and inadvertently encourages false allegations, aggressive and sometimes violent behavior, and intense blaming of the Non-BP or Non-NP spouse. Many Nons have been unable to protect themselves and their children from abuse by the BP or NP, and instead have found themselves experiencing restraining orders, supervised visitation, financial sanctions and even incarceration, because the courts are often more persuaded by the intense emotions and blaming behavior of a Borderline or Narcissist, than by your honest presentation of the facts. The book calls them "Persuasive Blamers."
This book explains how the Family Court process interacts with these Persuasive Blamers, and summarizes the lessons learned, including: the importance of careful preparations before announcing the divorce, using therapists and experts, avoiding short hearings on important issues, fighting hard at the beginning rather than trying to fix bad decisions later, and how to work most effectively with your attorney.

Anyone have any advice on this subject?

-- posted by jesika15

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» kkdenn - Borderline Personality and Narcisistic Personality Disorders

In response to Borderline Personality and Narcisistic Personality Disorders posted by jesika15:
Who is the author of the book? I am going to court this week to finalize my divorce- hopefully- but he is delaying it for unkown reasons and I may end up in some type of mediation. I believe he is delay to control the situation. My main concern is my children and he know this and is now doing things that he feel sis hurting me but is truly hurting our children. Please let me know th author or any sites that you have seen regarding this.

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