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» Marinda20 - Can Abuse be cured?

Thank you for you letter. I told him in the beginning of February that i'm leaving as you know he made my life hell. Asking question over and over. That he feals sorry for me. With this guy you cant tell him the truth you must change your words sothat it sounds like your the fault and to blame. I was the one that abandoned him and i am the one that pushed him away. You can not talk to him because he doesn't hear you and he only hears when he sais something he wants to hear. I get exstremely frustrated. for two days he ignored me completely and when i told him about it he asked me what my problem is. Every day when i come home the depression and stress takes over. My body is tired. I don't eat very much and my wait has drop exstremely. The saddest thing of all is that i told him about a situation that happend to me when i was young and i trusted him with it. After i told him that i was leaving he called my parents ugly names and he used that thing that i trusted him with and i threw that in my face just to come later and say i am sooooo sorry. He is so nice towards his friends noby suspect what he is doing to us when the door closes. He also told me that i can not say he is abusing me because it is medical related and he can not help it. I am very scared of him and what he can do to us. When he yelled at my daughter for something se did not do that he did, he went upstairs phoned his mom and told her that he feals like killing somebody right now, because this F** people is breaking my stuff. His parents told him that they do not want to get involved but its there son! My sister and her boyfriend is going to help me move my stuff. I know after this i will get better and stronger again and be happy again. I mis my old self.
Thank you for listening to me and your support, i appreciate it very much.

-- posted by Marinda20

» magictouch - Can Abuse be cured?

Hi Marinda20,

I understand almost everything you narrated here to me.I am so sorry all this had to happen to you.
I could relate to especially the bit about 'the thing' you told him in confidence. I also faced the same situation as I told him of an incident where I did do something that I was not very proud of in the past. He recently just sent me a nasty email about it and it broke me to bits.My ex threw it right back to me on my face because he feels powerless now that I have cut off all communication with him, he still wanted to have some power over me, so he tries to use email to break me.

My ex also text'd my mom and said nasty things about me to my mother, but thank GOD I was honest with my mom and told her everything before hand, so it did not come as a shock to her.

My ex also told me that I should give him some leniency because his condition is medically related too. When he said this, it did make think.So I read up more and wrote into this site asking for advice and I was thought how no matter what medical condition someone has, verbal abuse is not something that is acceptable.

I know that scared feeling, I still have it too sometimes when I got out alone, afraid if bumping into him.If your fear begins to control your movements, I suggest you try not to go out alone for a while, just so you feel better. If he does threaten you via email or text messages, with email or text messages as proof, I would suggest making a police report.Better safe than sorry!

My weight also dropped drastically and my face was so sunken when I with him.Yes, I also found it easier to just put the blame on me and just say things that would please him to stop the fighting.Yes, my ex was an absolute charmer with his friends, he was the life on a party, but just like you said behind closed doors, he was a nightmare!
You are right, I felt the way too, I could not talk to him, he just could not understand what I was feeling because all he was interested in was what he was feeling and what he wanted.

It was all about him.

We all have a past, and I sure know I did not use his past against him and I am sure you did not as well.

I am so pleased to know that you have the support of your sister and her boyfriend.

You will get better and stronger.You will be happy again and your old self will return in good time.:)

I take my hat off to you for taking this very hard step in your life.The next few months of recovery for you might be hard, but I can assure you it will be rewarding when you taste the sweetness of peace.

There might times when you might miss him alot, as we tend to get weak in flesh.He might come back begging and crying promising you the world with his undying confessions of love.My ex is still on my back, but I keep reminding myself of an article that I read by A.J Mahari that stated 'Verbal Abusers are not capable of love, they wear different masks just to get what they want'

You keep up this positive attitude and your commitment to finding happiness, happiness will be yours.

Slowly but surely, taking one day at a time, you will heal.You are the most important person in your life right now.

:)

magictouch

-- posted by magictouch

» magictouch - Can Abuse be cured?

Marinda20,

Read the article below , it might help you as it did help me.

http://emotional-verbal-abuse.suite101.c...

-- posted by magictouch

» Marinda20 - Can Abuse be cured?

Hi Magictouch

Your letter gave me goosebumps all over my body. I also feel a lot of sadness to what happend to you as well. I will pray so that the Lord can heal you from inside and outside as well. Thank you for the article. I will read it tonight.

We will get through this and believe me if God have somebody else in mind for me, i hope it takes a very long-long-long time for this man to reach me!!!

Best regards
Marinda

-- posted by Marinda20

» magictouch - Can Abuse be cured?

Dear Marinda,

Thank you from the deepest part of my heart. You reply put a smile on my face, you are a very perceptive person! To be able to sense my sadness just from my reply.You are right, I was and sometimes still do get very sad. When this happens, I just pray for GOD to cure my ex or at least plce my ex on the journey to recovery whether or not he is destined to be with me.This prayer for my ex gives me peace.

Thank you for your well wishes and keeping me in your prayers.

GOD works in mysterious ways.The one thing that I believe the most in my times of darkness is that GOD loves all HIS creations and HE does only the best for us.

Maybe GOD makes us meet the wrong people and we do the wrong things, so when we meet the right one, we do the right things .

I feel you to be a lady of strength.
I suppose this is part of our journey here on earth.

GOD willing , we will both meet the right man at the right time.:)

GOD makes everything beautiful in HIS own time.

Should you want to stay in touch via email, you can reach me at magictouch77@gmail.com.

GOD bless you and carry you through this time of adversity:)

magictouch

-- posted by magictouch